im a 21 year old girl. ive been in a relationship for almost 5 years. we never have sex, ever. its been probably more than a month now. i have many opportunities to get some elsewhere, but i dont want to cheat because i dont know how i will feel about it after. i masturbate nightly. so any ideas here?
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09 Jul 2013 12:06AM
A relationship is only as good as it meets the needs of the persons in the relationship. Using that criteria, how's your arrangement working out for you???
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09 Jul 2013 12:09AM
Have you tried talking to your boyfriend and telling him you are interested in a good lay?He might think that you (due to religious beliefs or something from the past) want to save your self or something of that nature
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10 Jul 2013 1:30PM
Have you tried reading the post? It may contain some information which would render your reply ridiculous.
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09 Jul 2013 12:11AM
What exactly are you getting out of the relationship?
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09 Jul 2013 12:14AM
I'm getting everything I could want and need...besides sex. He just has no sex drive and never really has. I try telling him i'm horny or that i'm dying to get fucked and he just doenst really do anything.
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09 Jul 2013 12:16AM
Well, then your choice is pretty clear if the relationship is important to you. You can either A) content yourself with not getting laid for the rest of your life, B) start cheating on him, or C) negotiate an open relationship.
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09 Jul 2013 12:46AM
Your 'relationship' ain't working then honey! What don't u understand about that??
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09 Jul 2013 8:32PM
I can understand your situation, and you're not the first person to be in this kind of relationship. Unfortunately, if he's always been like this, then chances are that he won't change any time soon, unless he chooses to take some serious steps to change. It would take physical, mental, or chemical therapy to change the situation. It would seem that you'll have to make a choice sooner or later. If you really are happy with the way things are regardless of your sex life, then there's nothing that any of us can tell you. But if you do want a change, then you and him need to talk, and figure out where you both stand on the subject.
Sex may not be the MOST important part of a relationship, but I'd say it's just as important as everything else. If you feel that you can live on without it, then I wish you the best. But if you feel that it's needed in the relationship, and the options above don't fall through, then I would suggest moving on before things move on any further and you end up unhappy because of it.
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10 Jul 2013 11:51AM
Stop with the garlic tooth paste and anchovie enema right before bed. Oh, and try dating a hetro guy.
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10 Jul 2013 6:00PM
Dude, don't cheat oh him. Just break up already.
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10 Jul 2013 6:30PM
hmmmmmm can we see you ??
btw, imagine if the sex is bad??
