I have to confess that I'm tired of people who cheat on their husbands/wives when they have children, or vice versa.
People are fucking idiots. I want everyone to know that, if you're in a shitty marriage and have considered the idea of fucking someone else, END THE FUCKING MARRIAGE. You all act like a bad marriage is something between you and your spouse, but your children will be forever scarred by the collateral damage that something like an unhealthy household can cause (even if you think you keep your problems away from your children, because, trust me, you don't).
If you love your children, if you honestly care about them, don't cheat. You're hurting them enough as it is by keeping them in an unstable environment. But if they see your marriage having problems, they'll have hope that you might get better. They have sympathy. They'll be scarred, and they might blame you, but they'll give you the benefit of the doubt. If you divorce, they'll learn to live with it. But if you cheat, they'll hate you forever. The other parent suffered as much as you did with the unhealthy marriage, but you stabbing them in the back by cheating makes you a worthless piece of shit in your kids' eyes. You're hurting their other parent willingly.
I posted a similar comment earlier, and this is basically an excerpt from it: "End your fucking marriage. Don't let the father find out. Keep your fuck buddy if you wish, but don't introduce him to the kids till way later. They'll always suspect that you left their father for another man, which will always make you the one they don't trust. But you've put yourself in this situation." change the gender as it applies.
If you're cheating and think you can't stop, you're a worthless piece of shit and don't love your children.
