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Worst case scenario I'm sure you can get a pity fuck from a girl who has always wanted to bang a cripple

Dude,

Hey man, I was 19 when I lost my virginity, and its not shamefull at all. I got some good advice and you can add me (texas_guy23) and throw questions my way anytime you want. I wish i woulda had someone help me! I'm going to create a list on this message and spell out everything, but if you have more questions or need any clarification on anything, send me a message, I'll be happy to help you out!

*Act like you don't want it: All girls like to be paid attention to. But when you pay too much attention that means your obviously desperate. NEVER BE DESPERATE! Act like you don't care if you ever see them again. Like they don't matter in the slightest. This is referring to your sexual side, every man wants to fuck everything with a skirt, so basically what im saying is turn OFF those sexual feelings for any girl at all and just enjoy the time you spend with them and forget the fact that you have a dick.

*Don't be over eager to please anyone. If you want to impress a girl, make sure its on your terms, never try to show off.. WHY? Because it usually blows up in your face and you look like a complete jack-ass. Be AWESOME, just only be as awesome as you TRULY are.
*Never be who your not:
Look, in all actuality, you can pretend to be someone rich or famous and lie to girls, but the truth is you want to be honest with every girl. If your totally honest chicks dig it ALOT! Basically when your out with a girl you like/have intrest in, you want to highlight your attributes, maybe you can sing, maybe you can play an instrument, maybe you can paint, whatever you can do, (and EVERYONE has a special skill), highlight that with anything else that you do better than everything else you do. Don't talk about doing cool shit, just do it. Like
Pics or it didn't happen, we don't want to hear about the 17 yo so hot you would bust a load over her, we want to SEE that chick getting banged hard. So don't tell a girl about cool shit, do it in front of/with her!

*Be outgoing:
Everyone likes a good show right? You have to be charged 110% of the time your out with girls, be smooth/suave, your going to fuck it up but it doesn't matter because you don't care right? RIGHT!? Good, you don't care, so its ok if you fuck up. Remember girls love confidence, but thats for the next section. When you are out with friends, be the life of the party, but know when its time to be quiet. Don't go overboard with being cool Like i said, be yourself and have fun with life. Girls like fun/funny guys, be a good times guy and you'll find a good times girl!
*Confidence:
Its the hardest thing you can get, because you have to accomplish something before it REALLY gets you there, in this case its fucking a chick, you won't ever feel really confident untill you fuck a chick, but they don't have to know that. let me put it like this, If you drive the biggest piece of shit in the world... its the coolest car on the road because its YOUR piece of shit. If you ride a bike instead, its the coolest bike on the road because its YOUR BIKE! Confidence is a game changer/winner, good confidence=open legs.

*Confidence continued:
Don't be afraid to be your own person, the person that sticks out the most gets the most attention. What you want is the RIGHT kind of attention, so only draw attention to yourself when you are doing something that your good at, not when your doing something hard for you or your doing a bad job. If you are looking good while doing something good, then your in the gold!
*Physical fitness/sex appeal
Look, its on everyones mind whether you look cool/sexy right? Wrong! You don't have to look awesome to be awesome, however it doesn't hurt to IRON your shirt and wear a button down. You can accomplish (get more) goals (chicks) if you start dressing smartly to fit your body type. From what i gather your not skinny, but you don't have to be. Don't get skinny/fit for ANY woman, do it for yourself, that way you can feel better about yourself and endo facto (as it all matters) you will have more confidence (which is important).
*Your mouth and when to close it:
Look, girls like to talk, guys are supposed to sit there and listen; and i mean REALLY listen. If she isn't worth your time to listen to, then apparently you don't want to get in her pants, so she's not worth your time.

*Conclusionary notes (because my fingers are tired im cutting it a bit short)
Look basically what you need is to be confident in what your doing, taking care of your appearance to look "decent", and not being a loud dumbass.. Don't speak too much (especially if you don't know the subject). Physical fitness is a plus, but not necessary, and be ENTERTAINING!
I would have wrote *Personality in a section all by itself, but im tired. Look, when your outgoing be funny, funny works. Just be yourself and have a good time. Remember this shit dude, it took me a long time to figure all this out, but if you have questions about ANYTHING feel free to get in contact with me, ill help you out no matter what!

Good luck with everything,

Jeff

Agree with most of what you wrote Jeff, good job and cool of you to share. Good luck to the OP as well.

Probably the toughest part is if you don't feel god and/or are depressed. It's tough to be all those things (entertaining, witty, confident, etc) when you just feel like shit. If you want it bad enough you can pull it off though, and you'll find pulling something off this epic will make you feel better. It's all connected and can snowball. Some people just can never get the snowball going, and I don't really blame them. Life can be a big pile of shit and not everyone is able/wants to be fake and pretend it's not. However, people fall for fakeness and that's why girls dig confidence etc...they think you must have life figured out and girls are such a mess emotionally, they really look up to someone who can handle life and it's struggles well, even with humor. Anyway I'm losing my train of thought so I'm gonna take off but good luck to both of you.

There is a book that helps you take care of your self image called "psycho cybernetics" check it out, its damn good!

OP, I'm curious what your handicap is. Or, like you said, it's not that debilitating, so what would you say is your worse feature that would prevent you from finding a lady?

I know a guy who was born deformed, no legs (or no leg, and the other is a stub) and a stub arm. 3 of his 4 would be limbs are either gone or really deformed. He's an inspirational dude though, and wound up marrying a very pretty girls and having a Family. He also runs a business, owns it. He easily could have given up right from the get go and you know what? No one would have blamed him. Talk about being comfortable in your skin. Some people wont go swimming or wear certain clothes because of the way they look, where this guy can't be overlooked at all yet he didn't let that affect him and made a lot out of his life.

So as a girl, I promise you there are real girls who are going to have a type that is exactly you. You are someone's type, maybe they will like you for you and not care about what has you self conscious or she will be into the handicap and a relationship will develop. Either way, you can find someone. I promise that person exists