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15 Mar 2026 5:43AM

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I am married, in my late 30's. Our sex life is ok, but I like to browse through places like this one, from time to time, not looking for a sexual relief per se, just out of boredom, and I find all sex related topics interesting.

For some reason, my husband asked me about my sexual past, not in a bad kind of way, and he told me he had three women before me. I brushed it off, joking, saying that a lady does not talk about such things, but he mentioned it again.

Now, our sex is great, but his relationship towards it is strange, he usually evades sexual topics, and we never talked about it before or after coitus. So, I am faced with quite a dilemma - what to tell him, should I be honest, or should I lie, or just evade answering.

The thing is, he has this perception of me, a cute blonde from a small town, so I am sure he is expecting the answer to be, that I just had one, or two guys before him. The truth is, that I was pretty free spirited, especially in college, including one night and five guys I barely knew.

I know this is not a Q&A site, but I would value your opinion, but a honest one. What would you prefer, if you were in his place?

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Anonymous

15 Mar 2026 5:48AM

He might like knowing the fact you was a free slut back in your younger years. He might want to explore that. That might be why he is asking. It can go 50/50 though, but if you do lie and he finds out the truth he would never trust you again

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Mattitude44

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15 Mar 2026 5:57AM

If he asks you again then you can be honest and explain that you were a bit promiscuous in your college years. It's obviously different now that your in a committed relationship with him. He asked the question so it isn't on you if he gets too upset. I would say you probably don't have to tell him about your night with five guys 😆

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Anonymous

15 Mar 2026 9:10AM

Anonymous,

I would talk to him about his expectations first. When some of us guys start asking about wives past lovers sometimes we want juicy details and all that good stuff. Sometimes they want to know little. But from experience and being one of those guys I wanted all the juicy details, I wanted her to have done things with others she’d not done for me. Once my wife confessed to an affair I was torn about my libido turned on me and I begged her to find another lover so I could serve her as a cuck. This may be where your hubby is leading with his inquiries about your sex life before him. It may lead to a few different scenarios. It could just be sex talk that gets him spicy, he may just have a bit of curiosity. He may have fantasies of you with another man. It could also be he wants to be cuckolded by you with another man.

ask him, talk about it, find out what he wants. Than adjust your response. It could lead to a great sex life. For us open honest conversation and love have led to many happy experiences over the last 25 years.

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Anonymous

15 Mar 2026 9:19AM

We’d prefer you to stfu

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gendiv2

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15 Mar 2026 10:31AM

I would ease into it, maybe ask him for details about his girls first, see if he wants to share specifics and make it fun for him, stroking or sucking him while he talks about them, then maybe start to share about yourself a bit and see if he seems more turned on or nervous, and share more as you gauge his reactions

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matze83

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15 Mar 2026 11:22AM

Die Ehrlichkeit siegt und es befreit ungemein.

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Heathen_daddy21

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15 Mar 2026 12:27PM

Usually when a man asks such a question, they are curious or interested. If youre worried about him being judgmental/negative; you can slowly introduce the subject. Tell him about your first time. Just for clarity, what is your number? My wife knew I was extremely promiscuous before we got together, but she kept hiding stuff and I really didnt appreciate it and it has degraded our intimacy on many levels. She has a lot of trust issues, but has made many mistakes because of this.

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