I have a "confession" to make: Although I am a dominant, alpha-type male who loves to molest, manhandle, and generally have my way with eager, submissive, cum-craving sluts I secretly have a fantasy involving a young deviant girl who wants to make a pussy-slave out of an older, dominant man such as myself. Bonus points if she wishes to use me in this capacity in front of her girlfriends! I have no desire to submit in any form unless it involves worshiping her delicious pussy however and whenever suits her needs.

I do not feel this qualifies me as a "switch" per se but some people might disagree with this mindset. What do you think? Am I a switch simply because I crave objectified, pussy-use by a hot young girl? Aside from the pussy-worship fantasy I lean towards pinning her to the wall and taking what I want ;)

JHON 3:16:FOR GOD SO LOVED THE WORLD HE GAVE HIS ONLY BEGOTTEN SON SO THAT WHO EVER BELIEVES IN HIM SHALL NOT PERISH BUT HAVE EVERLASTING LIFE

IM NOT PERFECT
MESSAGE ME IF YOU FEEL LIKE YOU WANT TO FOLLOW JESUS CHRIST AND OUR HEAVENLY FATHER AND PRAISE AND WORSHIP HIM AND EXALT HIS NAME AND HAVE HIM IN YOUR LIFE AND FIND YOUR CALLING WITH IN HIS GRACE AND. MERCy and KINGDOM.. I WANT TO BUILD SOMETHING WITH GOD AND JESUS CHRIST I KNOW YOU MIGHT FEEL THIS US A SEX Site AND PORN AND EVERYTHING BUT THIS IS A PERFECT PLACE TO RECH OUT TO PEOPLE ABOUT GOF AND THE HOLY SPIRIT AND FOLLOWING OUR COMMANDMENTS IN THE MIDDLE OF THE SIN AND DESIRES AND CARNAL MINDSET NOT TRYING TO PUT US DOWN OR MYSELF DOWN IM NOT PERFECT I WAS JUST SINNING A LIL MOMENT AGO ....V BUT I WANT TO GET BETTER VAT FOLLOWING MY COMMANDMENTS... I LIVE IN FLORIDA IN NORTH MIAMI BEACH IM 33 YEARS OLD IM SINGLE I HAVE NO KIDS. ... MESSAGE ME call me Michael THANKS YAHWEH ENTER OUR LIVES GOD ALMIGHTY EL SHADDAI ADONAI

I confess:

I am a 30 year old, straight, white, male virgin.

When I was younger I was quite obese and lacked confidence, so I never even bothered with trying to get laid or build an erotic relationship. 3-4 years ago I lost about 100-120 pounds, but haven't been able to adapt to a mindset that would allow for sex.

Porn and work is my life. I jack-off daily to a variety of pornography, but never think of initiating real-world sexual contact. I've stolen panties and articles of clothing from friends, my job, and my residence (there is a shared laundry) to compensate. It's thrilling, although I would prefer them to be unwashed.

What do you think? Opinions? Questions?

"LET ME SUCK YOUR SOUL"...She gloms the soul dark and slow.She sours light to muted glow. Smothered intentions of passion. She strip you off everything, don't hold back show me your naked mind and soul. She arouse you with deep moments of lust from the depths of your eternal desires. She want to worship your soul with her divine energy in your cock gently stimulating your unique vibrations. Let me penetrate your mindset, let me suck at your soul. I wants to tenderly kiss your ancient wisdom. Our body language will becomes a prayer every thought a glass of wine on the altar of all embracing passion,sexuality, eroticism and our lust. Can YOU Feel Me ????? Are you willing to give ME Your Soul ???? The Queen Of Darkness...The Queen Of DEVIL...The Priestess Goddess Phoenix ▲☥▲

i gotta say, this site was always so full of insecure bigots, but i've noticed lately that more and more people here are accepting of gay.
it's nice to see many enlightened individuals here on motherless.
essentially what's wrong with north america is it's hypocrisy.
christians yapping about stopping gay marriage because it demeans it's "sanctity" as if they consider marriage sacred enough to NOT cheat on their wives.
talking all this shit about being the land of the free. how do you call yourself that when you have a huge chunk of your people who are viewed as sub human and given less rights then the rest because of who they love and want to be with.

the bigots and homophobes always use this moronic excuse "You aren't born gay either you choose to be gay" as if them "choosing" to be gay makes it ok to discriminate them.
christians and right wingers are the first to stand up and defend the freedom of choice when their views are being threatened, but they shut their ears and brain off whenever a non christian asks for those same freedoms.

and if i haven't gotten through to any anti gay people out there with basic logic, let me just put it this way.
forget the people i'm defending are gays, just take that mindset and apply it to any other group of people. say christians in a muslim country.
what if the law said no having sex with your christian wife, it's immoral to islam.
and what if the law says, you're not allowed to get married, it offends some people when christians marry so you can't do it. unless you convert to islam and marry a muslim woman.
you can't adopt or have kids, cause raising kids outside of marriage is against the muslim religion, and eventhough you're not a muslim, you have to abide by their laws... for some reason...

how would you feel if this kind of treatment was being aimed at your or someone you love? is it really logical to tell someone who he can and can't marry based on YOUR beliefs?

and the biggest point to make in my opinion, christians are highly offended by gays. that's the main reason they act out the way they do. and why they don't want rights for gays.
but christians fail to understand that their religion, their views are offensive to many also, including myself. but just because your religion offends me doesnt mean you should have less rights and you should not be allowed to do what you do.

if we lived in such a world, we'd know this was some alternate timeline in which hitler won the war...

I love the way you move,
your sexy body so smooth,
you're an image of greatness.
My fantasies of you and me joining in erotic pleasures.
My purpose to explore your greatest treasures.
When I seen you come out that water,
your body screaming for pleasure,
made me ready to be your lover.
Properly made to seduce me into the freakiest mindset.
As I prepare you for what comes next,
properly displayed in this text.
Let me produce this visual of this love making poetry.
My lips touches your soft skin, travels inch by inch
Coming to rest and,
tongue touches then, lips resume kissing
Listening to the sounds you make
The way your breath escapes
Has me ready to travel to the south of your navel
Kiss you softly on your sexy pussy,
while my tongue travels slowly,
My lips wraps around your clitoris
Softly sucking, enjoying this
Perfection laced in my mouth, Juices forming in your uterus
Licking and sucking, digesting, you cumming
My tongue slides in your ass
Grab your waist,
press my face deep into your ass crack
Sucking and licking from front to back
Have you cumming back to back
Your pussy wet and ready for penetration
Slide my dick in fro an examination
Suck your nipples, while fucking you in
this sexual session
Tongue kissing you in place of dialogue
Dick in you like I'm performing a monologue
Pull out and put your pussy back in my mouth
Eat it from the back and slide my dick back
That's back to back
Position for preparation for you to receive my cum flowing inside
Kissing you as you receive my passion with pride. Alan

I'm sorry,if may come of as a racist bastard....but since it's basically impossible to talk about this kind of thing at all without someone immediately calling you one. And since it is about how one race has seemingly become more racist than any of the others I'm gonna say it anyway.

Fact is I am just so sick of all of this hypocritical, one-way race/racist based attention this treyvon martin case is getting.

...I know there's the whole issue of the "stand your ground" law, but to me a lot/too much to much of the focus/interest with this case seems to be ridiculously/hypocritically racially based.

Personally I don't care what the verdict is either way as long as the verdict is decided by facts. But the fact that so many people (as well as the media) are turning into such retarded, almost primitive, sub-human animals (rather than intelligent/rational human beings) and have gotten so tied up in this story and hoping zimmerman will fry (no matter what the facts may prove) only because the kid he shot was black, makes me absolutely sick.

I mean I could rattle off a huge long list of violent crimes (where the perp/perps is/are not white) but the victim is....or even minority on minorty violence/crimes that have happened in the same amount of time that people have been covering this story that NOBODY seems to be paying any attention to. But because this one victim in the one case was black, all hell seems to be letting loose from people of the same race.

I mean there are actually black people threatening to riot if zimmerman doesn't fry....when did that become ok?

I mean having lived through the whole spectacle of the OJ simpson trial in the 90's I have to say while I do remember it being somewhat racially charged, I don't remember white people or anyone else threatening to riot if OJ didn't fry.

So being a bit of an outsider to the US I just have to wonder...when did it become ok for one race to just ignore all logic and acceptable social standards when it suits them? Social standards and views that that very same race of people worked so hard to get in this country for centuries.

All this stuff about civil rights and equality for all races, seems to have almost worked. But because they seem to have developed this huge chip on their shoulder about racism and issues in their own culture. To the point they are racist against their own kind...remember when stacy dash wanted to support the p********ial candidate that WASN'T black? She got all manner of racist fuelled hate spewed at her FROM HER OWN PEOPLE on a level that would probably shock a KKK grand dragon.

I mean racism has apparently and ironically just taken over the the minds of the lesser intelligent members of this race that on the whole it just seems to be consuming them, and in the end doing more to tear everything previous achieved clear apart

It seems to hold them in an outdated rut of a mindset that ironically was always a joke cause it was sort of the same mindset/rut your stereotype white/redneck racist was in. But just like for the few redneck racists, that outdated mindset is what keeps them and their culture stuck where they are, and seems likely to keep things from ever getting any better until they finally just suck it up and deal with it once and for all.

.....which nobody seems to want to do cause anytime ANYBODY tries to talk to them about it the first word out of their mouths is "racist!!!!"

I dream of turning a sub or slave into a porn star.

I would start by having her masturbate to porn that I think is super filthy and or the styles I like and want to train her on. Then from there I would train and coach her through dirty talk and getting her into the mindset that it takes to be an actual slut and need cock.
From there I would have her hold her camera and record her fingers or toys fucking her holes and the laptop or tablet screed of the porn. She would talk dirty, describe what they would be doing to her, how she would be thanking them and begging them for more, and how she would be a better fucktoy for them. I would edit it and put on dirty comments and more. I would edit it and post small clips on here and other porn sites and the full version to her only fans. As she collected fans, I would allow the top paying fans to submit porn to her to masturbate to and talk dirty about and then edit those and put comments of different fans on her videos.
Once she had a fan base and was earning enough money, I would use the money to take control of her life and put her in a nice apartment where she can have fans over to use her and be videod letting them use and abuse her or just as a perk for their subscription.

I would use the videos to market her to different porn agencies and get her scenes, and help promote that on her only fans as well as other porn sites.

This is my filthiest fantasy now

I am looking for advice on how to become a better submissive partner. I find myself at a standstill with my soon-to-be husband. We both tend to lean toward the submissive side in the bedroom.

However, I crave a much more controlling dynamic in our relationship. As a big fan of BDSM, that's ideally what I want—not just in the bedroom, but in other aspects of our lives as well. I can be pretty hard-headed at times, and I would love to be guided out of that mindset.

We are having troubles, and I don't know how to fix them. Our sex life is not great, and I find it challenging to get into the right mindset anymore.

I'm just looking for tips or tricks to help me escape this strange funk. Thank you, and please do reach out. I am open and willing to hear everyone out 

I HATE LEECHES!!!!!!!!!!

I have to agree with you in supporting the leeches,unfortunately the government rewards people for negative behaviors, it's sad but true. Even sadder that there are people like the elderly, the mentally handicapped, as well as physically handicapped and people who may have lost their jobs , homes, and depend on the government help. I can see someone who clearly lost their jobs and have no means to support their families. Then there are this leeches you speak about, the ones that keep producing kids every time they need a pay raise. They have that sense of entitlement , these leeches are buying coach hand bags, getting their hair and nails done , smart phones, designer clothing, etc... all off our tax dollars. While I work others get to sit home and collect , and most of the leeches have that generational mindset of assistance, they teach their kids how to sponge too, when you talk to some of the kids they will tell you when asked what they are going to do for a job when they get old enough, their responses are usually " my mom says I don't have to work, I can collect money and not have to lift a finger", sucks but that's how they feel. As far as I'm concerned if you can afford all the luxuries like smart phones, hair and nails, designer clothes and footwear, and go out and buy coach handbags, flat screen TVs , then you don't need or deserve public assistance, go out and get a job and stop sponging from others who do work, cuz what they are doing is no different then panhandling and begging when they could, and I'm not talking about people who really have a valid reason why they can't work should be employed . There is work out there, but it for lazy people who choose not to work.

I’m in a kink community in my home state and I am a dominant man in that scene. I’ve been in a terrible mindset for about a month an a half. I care about my friends in the community, they’ve helped me grow into a better man, even gotten me a better 2nd job than the first one I had. But the lifestyle stuff, all the stuff with people and interactions, it’s getting to me.

I can’t deal with personal emotions, I just can’t, love, intimacy, attachment, they make about as much sense to me as quantum mechanics. But in this lifestyle they’re in my face every time I go to our dungeon. I say our because the community has accepted me, I can tell they want to help and have me grow. They put a lot of faith and trust in me. They want to see me succeed, even try to help me get with the girls that come out, they do everything they think they can. They’re good people, honest people.

And I don’t deserve a single bit of their friendship, not I’m my eyes. Seems like every time a new girl comes in to the group I get thrown off, I get moody, angry, down, all I can think about is how I can’t have the things I want. Recently a very cute and sexy girl came out, we played some on her 1st time out, and the look she got when she was done for the night. Eyes that screamed at me that I could do anything I wanted in that moment. But I knew better, I let her go, I wasn’t going to ruin anything for her for her first time. She’s moved on to other things in the group, and our “relationship” if you can even call it that, is awkward at the very best of times. Last time we were both out I basically sat and tried to forget she even existed, failed miserably and looked like, according to one friend “I was pouting over her playing with someone else.”

I couldn’t be a part of that situation, I had to try to shut my brain off, but when she is right over your shoulder getting played with, it’s not possible. I try to keep myself out of the lifestyle, my personal emotions and desires. I know they interfere with others and their own wants and needs, I know mine ultimately don’t matter in relation to the needs of others in the community. I’m a small fish in this pond and I have no right to claim I’m important enough to justify attention. Hence why I’m here writing about all this instead of anywhere on fetlife.

This kind of thing keeps happening, I get all stupidly attached to any pretty face that pays attention to me, then get my guts ripped out when they inevitably move on or don’t have any interest. And it isn’t befitting of a dominant man. Or any man. It’s stupid and childish. And it infuriates me that I can’t figure out how to deal with this. I can’t keep dragging everyone down with my juvenile antics. They count on me and I can’t let them down. And it doesn’t do them service to have them worry about trivial matters such as my inability to deal with my shit.

All the shit I get to do, my life being better now, when I think about my stupid problem all that fades out and I lose sight of my position in life. This even keeps me from masterbating, or even enjoying it, cuz all I can think about is how I’m jacking off to try and feel better and sate my young adult lust. Just makes me think of how immature I am and how I don’t really belong in the lifestyle or the community. I’ve considered quitting, but if I did the community would ask what the problem was, why I would leave, and then I’d be really exposed as the jackass I am.

I don’t expect any answers really, honestly I doubt anyone will read this to the end. But idk if you have any input I’ll read it.